I don’t know about you, but being in close confines with the same people day in, day out (even the ones you love to bits!) can be challenging.
Whatever blocks, problems or insecurities you (and the people you are close to) had before self-isolation and social distancing…
— they’ll likely be exposed and amplified over the coming weeks and months.
Anxiety. Overwhelm. Comparisonitis. Fear. Anger. Judgement. Frustration. Boredom. Grief. Procrastination. Ego.
We can use this time to argue, complain and get fed up
— or we can use this time to go within, strengthen our relationships and stay positive.
As my personal mind coach, Kylie Ryan said so eloquently:
Right now, we are experiencing a forced awakening. This quarantine period is an opportunity. This is an invitation to return to family; to return to heart; and to return to our inner sovereignty.
This period of isolation is like a cocoon for the human species to shift into a higher frequency. It will feel uncomfortable and you will feel resistance, especially now that our outside avoidance tactics are no longer available to us.
People always ask me how I stay positive all the time.
The truth is, I get #triggeredAF too!
But I’ve done so much inner work, that I’m (usually) conscious of my triggers
— and I’ve invested in LOTS of mindset tools and techniques to minimise the emotional charge they might otherwise hold over me.
These tools help me focus on finding solutions rather than marinating in blame, drama and stories…
— which is the secret to feeling way more positive and resourceful about any issue!
So I thought I would share them with you:
13 Ways To Avoid Being Triggered AF, Stay Positive & Save Your Sanity During Self Isolation
Otherwise known as EFT (or emotional freedom technique).
This is a great one when you are feeling hopeless or are beyond the point of even wanting to “feel positive”. It allows you to say your worst fears and worries out loud while tapping on meridian points of your body.
I personally love Brad Yates on YouTube. He has tapping scripts for pretty much anything and releases new videos weekly. I use tapping whenever I feel physical symptoms of anxiety or grief or helplessness and I have found this brings me back to a place of neutrality.
When I do this 10 minute exercise fully and wholly, I end up literally crying with gratitude and happiness. It makes you feel so LIGHT and happy.
Warning: You will probably feel self conscious when doing this! I only do it when I am by myself at home 🙂 I’m honestly not the biggest Tony Robbins fan, but I LOVE this process.
Priming is a mixture of breathing and shifting energy through simple movement, visualisation and gratitude. It’s hard to explain, so I suggest putting your headphones in and just trying it by following it below.
You can read more about Tony Robbin’s Priming exercise on this page here.
Journalling is so simple but can be so powerful. There’s something about writing with a pen and paper and getting your thoughts (good and bad) down on paper. Burn it later if you feel like it’s bad juju or you are worried someone will read it.
When I first started journalling, I remember feeling like I didn’t know what I was supposed to journal about. The answer is whatever you want – it depends on what you want to get out of the exercise.
Some days, I’ll journal about any negative belief or emotion that I want to clear (I write at the top of the page: “what do I believe / how do I feel about X?”)
Other days, I write my ideal life over pages and pages;
or I do dot points of my goals;
or I list out affirmations;
or I write things I am grateful for.
I don’t believe you need a formula, just start writing.
If you want some prompts to start, my personal preference is gratitude (see below) or else check out this list of 100 Deep Questions to Ask Yourself.
Writing a gratitude letter or list can be beneficial not just for healthy, well-adjusted individuals, but also for those who struggle with mental health.
Studies have shown that when we feel gratitude, it activates the medial prefrontal cortex of the brain, which is the part associated with learning and decision making.
5. UNCONSCIOUS PATTERN CHANGE (UPC)
I trained with Kylie Ryan of My Mind Coach for 12 months to become a qualified NLP Practitioner. This means I can take my clients and myself through many magical mindset processes, including UPC (I call them “Belief Busters”).
The UPC process seeks to
- find the root cause, memory or event that created the belief, story or pattern of behaviour (and usually what comes up is completely unexpected!);
- neutralise the emotional charge attached to that event or memory;
- allow you to find the wisdom from the event; and
- change your reaction so you make better choices when faced with circumstances that trigger that old belief, story, emotion or pattern of behaviour in the future.
In the PBA we use all of my magical tools in our weekly Mindset & Motivation calls. We also have an audio Mindset Library of around 15 different processes to clear negative beliefs about success, making money, pricing and selling, not being “techy”, overwhelm, fear, grief, frustration, fear of being judged, just to name a few.
Plus I offer 1-1 mindset work for those who want more personal and deeper clearings.
I’ve invested in MANY different types of hypnosis and use them all the time. I personally love Marissa Peer, who does Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT).
She does a range of paid and free hypnosis audios. I try to listen to the same RTT session for 30 days straight, usually as I go to sleep at night, if I am trying for a specific outcome.
I also use the hypnosis sessions from Kylie Ryan’s Goddess Body Quest program for things like giving up alcohol or junk food when I am struggling to be motivated!
Reframing is simply changing your perspective to see the current situation in a new or more constructive way, which helps in problem-solving and to move on from a situation where you may be stuck.
Reframing is basically questioning the truth of your statements when you notice an unhelpful belief.
For example: if a client in the PBA said to me:
“No-one is spending right now!”
— then before we began any process to clear that belief, I would first check-in with the strength of the truth of that belief.
I would ask things like:
“Really? No-one? Can you think of anyone who IS spending money right now?
What about people spending money on internet connections or toilet paper or online classes?
From my perspective, there are lots of people spending money on lots of things.”
Sometimes a simple reframe is enough to move you through a limiting belief or story – and sometimes it clarifies a deeper belief you can clear with an UPC or other NLP process.
8. GET PRESENT
This sounds super basic, but not being present is at the core of most problems! Before we do any sort of clearings in the Photography Business Accelerator, I focus on getting my clients to start by simply focusing on the right now.
We do this with long breaths in and out;
putting our feet flat on the floor;
feeling the earth supporting us;
letting go of resistance to our minds wandering;
focusing on my voice; and
simply trusting the process.
The only thing that is truly in the present moment is you and the right now.
When you are not present, you’re thinking either about something that has already happened (ie the past – even if it was two minutes ago) or something that hasn’t happened yet (ie the future – usually associated with worry, anxiety, overwhelm, fear).
In the present, in this second, in the absolute right now — you are safe.
Ho’oponopono is an ancient Hawaiian forgiveness practice to use when empathy, forgiveness and seeing another point of view is needed.
You repeat the Ho’oponopono prayer over and over: “I love you. I’m sorry. Forgive me. Thank you.”
The idea is that when you heal yourself, everything else in your reality will change.
If I have a specific issue, like a memory that has an emotional charge, I will journal on it, then do Ho’oponopono, then finish with an Unconscious Pattern Change on the belief or emotion that the memory brings up, if it still lingers.
Here’s a good video on what Ho’oponopono is and the reason it is so powerful.
What we focus on, expands.
To help me focus on what I want or how I want to feel (as opposed to how I am feeling or what I don’t want), I have a bank of visualisations that I use.
- Kylie Ryan does a great Guidance From Your Future Self and I also love her Chakra Healing visualisation.
- Lana Shlafer has a fabulous Money Tree and an Ease visualisation
- Denise Duffield-Thomas has an awesome Ideal Life visualisation I often use when I want to get clear on my goals.
These are all part of paid programs but you can find great calming visualisations on YouTube.
I particularly like this free visualisation (don’t get put off by the name, it’s really calming and you visualise healing your whole body).
Affirmations are used to reprogram the subconscious mind, to encourage us to believe certain things about ourselves or about the world and our place within it.
An affirmation is saying something as if it has already happened or is happening.
Sometimes saying affirmations can feel unrealistic — but exposing yourself to repeated consistent affirmations over time can be powerful for retraining your brain.
I use reframing (above) to turn a negative thought or belief into a positive affirmation using language that resonates with me.
Then I use an app called Think Up where I have recorded myself saying those custom affirmations, so I can hear them in my head, in my OWN voice.
Download this free PDF: 50 Affirmations To Reset, Recharge & Attract Abundance here.
12. MOVE YOUR BODY
The easiest way to change your mental state is to physically move your body.
This can be as simple as forcing yourself to do a big smile even though you feel angry or sad!
Alternatively, I love the one-minute “coffee shot”, which is great especially when you’re tired. It’s a technique that gives you a jolt of energy, where you rub your hands together until your arms burn – and without the caffeine hit!
Dance, jump or skip on the spot.
Run, walk, do yoga or just some simple stretching.
Physically moving your body shifts stagnant energy, which helps to change your mental state and your mindset from one that is negative and unhelpful to one that is resourceful.
13. CUT YOURSELF OFF FROM OTHER PEOPLE’S ENERGY
Being able to minimise the impact of other’s energies or states on YOUR state of mind, is probably one of the most crucial mindset skills to learn.
Be aware of what you are feeding your mind and your emotions.
I’ve said it before and I will say it again: what we focus on, expands.
You can remove yourself from other people’s energy by
- only checking the news once per day or every couple of days;
- being mindful of the Facebook algorithm and what content you are engaging with (it will keep showing you more of the same);
- having boundaries with yourself about how much social media you consume each day, especially the hour before bed;
- walking away from conversations that feed drama;
- even putting on your headphones to block out some else spiralling into drama in their conversations.
After I finish a mindset call with my PBA clients, I do a visualisation where I cut my energy off from that person, so that I don’t absorb their energy.
I also use a fabulous Chord Cutting visualisation from Denise Duffield-Thomas where you cut the energetic ties to a particular person who is causing you pain or grief or anxiety.
So there you have it!
13 Ways To Avoid Being Triggered AF, Stay Positive & Save Your Sanity During Self Isolation
The best tip I can give you during this time if you are feeling tested and triggered:
Everyone is dealing with the impact of the current climate.
Everyone processes in different ways.
Now is the time to embrace empathy
and let go of judgement.
AND for yourself.
Because at the end of the day —
We are all doing the best we can with the resources we have.
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